One of the hardest parts about divorce is the waiting.
Waiting for a final decision from your partner (hoping the nightmare isn’t real); waiting for the paperwork; waiting for the court system; waiting to hear back during negotiations; waiting to heal.
The waiting means it’s hard to know how to feel. The waiting means that there’s no time to heal yet because the bandaid keeps getting ripped off. There’s no clear path of how to move forward because you’re constantly being pulled back.
It doesn’t matter how much time passes – when you’re in limbo, there are times that’s where you stay. In a funk, in a fog, in a world where you question yourself. Questions that you thought you knew the answers to, but becuase you are trapped, you begin to question the reality of it all.
It’s strange to be stuck in limbo: not sure of where to go, what to do. It’s hard to know what the next steps forward are when there hasn’t been resolution yet.
There’s a restlessness that seems to permiate the soul no matter where you are.
Talking to a professional is great; talking to friends is wonderful. Having a support system is vital. But those things don’t bring with it the finality that is needed in order to heal.
The only thing that can help while in limbo is to trust the process – to lean on those who are there for you when life feels overwhelming. Like it or not, this is all part of the journey…