One of the hardest things a person can do is trust. It’s difficult to trust someone else, but what I’ve discovered is that it’s even harder to trust yourself. It’s especially difficult to learn to trust yourself again after you’ve been in a difficult relationship. In a relationship that ended in lies - but in... Continue Reading →
We Are Not Who We Once Were (Hopefully…)
Everything seems the same and yet everything is different. A death, a divorce, a disagreement, a loss of any kind, a pandemic...A move, a new hobby, a good book, a puppy, a new relationship... Any time we experience something new in our lives (good or bad, big or small) it affects us and changes us... Continue Reading →
The Look of Love
What are the things that come from our heart? What are the objects of our affection, our time, our work, our life, our love? How is it that we express affection and caring to those that are important in our lives? Often we express our feelings in different ways - ways that don't always make... Continue Reading →
It’s Not You, It’s Me
I know, I know, that sounds like a really cliche and totally terrible break-up line. But it's not a break-up I'm thinking of, but instead the start of a new relationship. After you have been in a relationship for such a long time (say, 15 years or so?) and then it's gone, there's still a... Continue Reading →
Living with Ghosts
I wish I this were the start to a horror novel that I had created...but, alas, it is not. Just about a year ago, I lost my dog Pugsley. I wrote about having to say goodbye in my post "Goodbye is the Hardest Word to Say." Lately it has been weighing on my heart and... Continue Reading →
Personal, Yet Universal
Recently I saw a drawing hanging up on a door, and above the drawing was the saying "All things personal are also universal." This statement has stuck with me since I saw it. Often, when things don't go right in our lives, we get stuck in a mindset of "why is this happening to me?"... Continue Reading →
Alone at Christmas
Lately I've been feeling sick. No, not Coronavirus sick (although that did cross my mind and I started looking up symptoms). I haven't been able to really eat since Thanksgiving, except after I exercise. I have a whopper of a headache that doesn't seem to abate. I have alternated between not being able to sleep... Continue Reading →
Beauty in Difficulty
Divorce is hard.Therapy is hard.Collecting the pieces of yourself is hard.Life is hard. And yet - each and every one of these things, each difficult thing we face is beautiful. (I'm sorry, what?!) It's true. In the midst of each one of our difficult moments, they suck - and they suck hard. But when we... Continue Reading →
How Divorce Prepared Me for a Pandemic
My COVID quarantine experience started in a very similar way to many in the United States...In March, on a Friday, we were informed through our work emails that the governor was going to be shutting down everything for two weeks. It was the end of the work day and most of the teachers in my... Continue Reading →
Drifting
I hadn't felt the need to write as much lately. I hadn't given much thought to where "we" were...actually, that's a lie - it's been about a year since the divorce has been finalized but so much longer since we separated. And yet, I find myself thinking so often. But today it hit me differently.... Continue Reading →
time of my life 