So often life is reduced to platitudes:"Time heals all wounds""It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all""Nobody can make you happy until you are happy with yourself first""Happiness comes from within""Happiness is not trying or finding, it's deciding" While there is some wisdom to be gleaned from these sayings...it's... Continue Reading →
We Have to Fail, Before We Can Succeed
During the Fall semester, my students were writing for our memoir unit. And once again, I had shared with them pieces that I have written. (If you haven't read, I wrote about the post "Be Brave. Still Believe." a couple years ago.) But when it came time for them to write their own memoir pieces,... Continue Reading →
Small Steps = Big Progress
Many years ago, right before I got married, I created an email that reflected what would become my new name and the year that we were getting married. This has been the email that I have used for more than a decade. This is the email that has reflected who I was for those years.... Continue Reading →
Finding Our Inner Light
I was reminded recently that each of us has a light inside of us. It is this light that shows us the best parts of ourselves and guides us to be the best person we can be. It is so easy to forget about that light when life gets difficult. We allow the darkness of... Continue Reading →
Favorite Person
Having a favorite person is the best feeling in the world. They teach you lessons that you didn't know you needed to learn. They are the one that you want to share everything with. They are the one that when you see them, the stress and problems of the day seem to melt away. They... Continue Reading →
“Be Gentle With Yourself”
"Be Gentle With Yourself." This is something my therapist has told me - a few times actually. These are words that I need to remind myself of often. As I mentioned in one of my previous posts, I am a classic overthinker. Everything someone says or doesn't say gets played over and over in my... Continue Reading →
The Universe Listens
Drifting along we can feel lost. Drifting along we can feel like we don't know what the next step should be. Drifting along is exactly that... But when you acknowledge where you are at, when you acknowledge that you want a change to happen - sometimes, the universe listens. The hardest part is knowing when... Continue Reading →
Take a Gamble
It's so easy to put up walls after going through something difficult - whatever that might be. It's so easy to close off everyone else and keep things "safe" for yourself. It's easy to learn how to only look out for yourself and keep yourself from being vulerable again - because when you're vulnerable, you... Continue Reading →
Building Trust
One of the hardest things a person can do is trust. It’s difficult to trust someone else, but what I’ve discovered is that it’s even harder to trust yourself. It’s especially difficult to learn to trust yourself again after you’ve been in a difficult relationship. In a relationship that ended in lies - but in... Continue Reading →
We Are Not Who We Once Were (Hopefully…)
Everything seems the same and yet everything is different. A death, a divorce, a disagreement, a loss of any kind, a pandemic...A move, a new hobby, a good book, a puppy, a new relationship... Any time we experience something new in our lives (good or bad, big or small) it affects us and changes us... Continue Reading →